Describe yourself in 3-5 words.
- Destiney: Queenly. Resilient. Powerful.
What’s your current state of mind?
- Destiney: Everything in my world right now is about peace and being intentional as I welcome this new life into the world. I've been very selective about everything I allow around me, including people, media, and messaging. I'm staying high-vibe! There isn't room for fear.
What part of this motherhood journey are you in, would you mind sharing a bit about it?
- Destiney: When I had my daughter Honor, I felt like I blossomed into womanhood and motherhood. I have wanted to give her a sibling for several years, but the timing wasn't right. I had no idea that when I did become pregnant again it would be such a journey of growth in and of itself. Bringing my son into this world (any day now!) is such a blessing.
When did you know you were ready to start the motherhood journey?
- Destiney: I’m a Cancer. We’re naturally nurturers so I've known for a while that my journey in motherhood wouldn't end with my daughter. It was a long road of healing but for several years we only co-parented in the best possible way for our daughter, Honor. I never thought our paths would be realigned in this way, but the universe has other plans, and we matured and came back together and are now growing our family.
Who is a woman who inspires you?
- Destiney: First and foremost, my great-grandma. She is literally my s-hero! Oprah, Harriet Tubman, Beyoncé. I’m all for women trailblazers.
Who or what has helped you the most on your journey?
- Destiney: Whew! There have been so many instrumental people on my journey that I'm so incredibly grateful for. I would have to say everyone on my team + Ibrahim, of course. But truly, Honor has been my biggest wake-up call and blessing. Her life gave me a purpose bigger than myself.
What moment sticks in your mind most from this journey?
- Destiney: I like to pick a word for each new year. Something to intentionally set my path of focus for the new year ahead of me. I think a word, instead of one specific moment, would be most appropriate for me in this scenario as well. I would say that I'd focus on the word, “Overcoming.” It has been a long road to get to this point of life I'm in right now - mentally and physically. All that I’ve been able to overcome in this journey is beautiful and something I don't take for granted.
What would you say to others who find themselves in a journey similar to yours?
- Destiney: Get out of your own way! You are capable of so much and there is no path that isn't possible. You can find yourself through motherhood, it may take a while but that's okay. Enjoy the journey.
What has the journey taught you, and what keeps you going?
- Destiney: That saying, "what you go through, grows you," rings so true. I've changed so much, and I continue to work on myself. My kids are watching, there is no turning back.
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